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JohnM upstateNY's avatar

Yeah, 3 is definitely more stable than just 2. 3-legged stools work better at supporting a load than 2-legged even though we might take pride in our ability to ride a bike, let alone a unicycle. Each of two and one require constant motion to stay upright. 3 allows stability even in "just talking," perhaps especially when the 3rd is not present, like in gossip. As you note, 3 allows more opportunity for story to emerge. 3 helps to relieve the need to talk to each other about subjects too tense, too personal, too scary to share directly. Having three allows us to hold inside what we dare not share...until one, or the other, is ready.

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Bobbie's avatar

I love this, and I needed it *right now.* Emergency meeting of a volunteer group I co-lead in 21 minutes. Lucky to have a great group of volunteers to help make some decisions and strategies. My 3 things: tissue box; old Chianti bottle wound in raffia, with drippy candle; very promising large bud of flower I can’t remember the name of.

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